I don’t have a problem with homosexuals. I think they are misguided souls and seem very dysfunctional to me but I don’t want to live in a society where they are criminalised for choosing a destructive way to live their lives, but I get sick of hearing the kind of nonsense that is put forward as argument for gay marriage. It usually takes three forms.
1). Marriage is a human right.
2). Society changes and the definition of marriage must change with it.
3). Homosexuals are just acting naturally.
Marriage is not a “human right” it is a human want. There are millions of heterosexual people who will never get married because they cannot find someone to marry them. A “right” is universal, everyone can (and in many cases must) have it. Rights derive from reason and the only true “rights” are those you don’t have to use force on others to have. For example, freedom of religion is a “reason based right” becuase everyone must have a worldview and it cannot be forced on you and having a relgious view is not something you have to use force on someone else to acquire. Similarly there is no “right to healthcare” as to have a “right to healthcare” you have to force someone to provide it.
Secondly, people like me object to homosexual marriage because marriage is a blatantly heterosexual institution. It arose about 4,ooo years ago when two heterosexual couples started getting together to join one son and one daughter, one from each couple, legally (hence the ceremony) and financially (where dowries come from) for the purpose of providing a stable platform in which to propogate the lineage.
Why has marriage lasted?
Because of the differences between men and women, namely:
1). Historically men have been more economically productive, the stronger the back, the bigger the wallet.
2). Because women could get pregnant and men couldn’t. And men could leave unless there was something binding them.
3). Women have historically been better child rearers and have been economically dependent during this period.
4). When a child was conceived adulterously the man was compelled to accept it and give it the best chance of stability in life despite actions the child had no control of.
None of these factors are applicable to homosexuals.
To change a heterosexual institution into something else is as nonsensical as changing a business into a charity, i.e. giving a CEO the ability to give shareholders cash to whatever charity he likes. We have rules in business that have developed over the centuries, i.e. corporate benefit, when we want an organisation that does something new or different, we create a new one, like charities, and in the case of homosexual rights, civil unions.
Finally, when you talk to homosexuals you find that many lacked either a father or mother figure (or both) in their early life, they have higher rates of having suffering abuse, they grew up in very effeminate or masculine households, they were “taught” homosexual behaviour in their teens by older homosexuals. There is also research indicating homosexuality is an attachment disorder developed very early in childhood. So the jury is hardly in on whether homosexuality is a product of nature or nuture.
This is without even talking about the damage wrought by homosexual parents.
In my experience Christians are largely non-plussed about homosexuality beyond thinking the people are misguided and being willing to help them to change if they want. The reason Christians appear obsessed (and make posts like this one) is because we get a bit sick of nonsense being presented as common sense and being constantly asked about it – like anyone doesn’t know where Christians stand on the issue! For evidence of this compare how much money Christians give to 3rd world poverty relief compared to 1st world anti-homosexual marriage organistaions. You’ll find the money going to the 3rd world is many thousands of times higher and where a man’s treasure lies, there his heart will be also.